QUESTION: How do I know if I’m falling in love?

ANSWER: Good love starts with you.

Know who you are

Know that you are love. Love yourself and then you will attract the love you deserve. It’s not about subscribing to what your mother, aunties, storybooks, fairy tales, or romantic novels have told you about falling in love. With all due respect to our mothers, aunties, sister-friends, and other well-meaning advisors, love is something you must experience and define for yourself.

Honor your intuition

How do you feel when you are in the presence of the one who commands your affection? I am not saying to let only logic or only emotion rule all of your decisions about love, but check in with yourself and be real with yourself.  When you are together, do you feel refreshed or burdened?  Would this be the first person you want to speak to in the morning and the last person you would want to talk to at night? Are you paying attention to the behavior (the way you speak to one another; the care and time you give to one another) of your potential love? Pay attention to your instincts.

Give it time

Let love grow. Spend time with your potential love. Observe. Listen. Learn. Love does take time. Get to know each other. Learn each other’s likes and dislikes.  If you desire good, healthy love, you need to take your time.

Recognize the difference between attraction, infatuation, and love

Attraction can come and go.

Infatuation can be fun, but be careful; you don’t want to be in this state of mind alone. Love is certain; there is no confusion, and your heart and mind dare not say no. Sister, rise to the love that is yours to have.

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