Are you guilty of separating your friends into neat little boxes? You have your girlfriends who you shop with. The one you go to church with. The ones you party with. The one you share your family with. You know who to call to support your perspective in various situations. You know when to call your girlfriend who will be your hype woman and egg you on, not the one who will challenge you, if they think you may be on the wrong track.

What boxes do they put you in? Are you that girl who gets called on to party or the one who gets called when a sound opinion is needed? Are you the one who tells your girl her outfit looks great when in reality she needs to change? Are you the one who can gently tell her friend that the man she has been seeing is really not holding her in high regard, or do you listen as she goes on and on about how he’s the one? Are you there to review her résumé, practice interview questions, and help her pick the perfect interview outfit or are you keeping her up the night before her big interview?

While we are not here to make decisions for our friends, a real friend is there to support her friends, be honest with her friends, and cheer her friends along. Real friends pray each other through a crisis, praise with each other in times of happiness, cry and laugh with each other, and lift each other up. When the time is right, we are silent.

There are two characteristics, which every real friend has. One is that you do not have to speak to your real friends every day. Whether the last conversation you had was yesterday or two months ago, real friends are able to talk as if the last conversation never ended. The other is that your real friends accept you as you are without judgment, and you accept them the same way.

Real friends trust each other with their secrets, dreams, and fears. They know beyond a doubt that they will support each other through the good and the bad. According to an anonymous quote, “A real friend is someone who knows all about you and loves you anyway.” Are you that friend?

10 Traits of a Real Friend:

1. Loyal

2. Trustworthy

3. Honest

4. Shows respect

5. Giving (without expecting anything in return)

6. Nonjudgmental

7. Dependable

8. Supportive

9. Encouraging

10. Good listener

Are you playing the role you want to play in your friends’ lives? Are you being true to yourself while being a real friend? What are the traits you admire in your friends? Do you possess and display those traits?

When examining your friendships, embrace the time you have, and recognize that not all friendships are meant to last forever, but while you are in each other’s lives

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